Jan

5

Ch Ch Ch Chaaanges!

By admin

A lot of people have a lot of questions as to where I have been lately.  I wasn’t going to tell anyone, partly because I was ashamed, partly because… frankly I was scared of being judged.  I don’t take too kindly to being talked about negatively and try to avoid the possibility of that at all times.  I’m letting that all go because I can’t stop it all from happening and frankly I don’t have too much to be ashamed about when you boil it all down.

That being said, I’m ready now…

Long story short – between the market in the states (where most of my clients are/were), my temporary living situations over the last 2 years taking it’s toll, becoming a single mom, my PC laptop finally giving into it’s much anticipated final resting place – it’s been a long hard working-from-home road that is now under major construction part-time until further notice.

I had to get an office job, a real job – outside of the house.  Only guess what?! The job I got is one where I get to utilize my skills from my previous 12 years of office experience AND I also get to use the skills I’ve aquired during the last three years (and a bit) of working from home.  I’ll share more about the company and exactly what I’ll be doing once we launch.  Here’s a great tid bit… I’ll be helping with their online networking so I may be more of a presence in that regard sometime very soon.

Financially I need to get back on my feet and one of the first things I’ll be doing is purchasing a new laptop so that I can continue some of the projects that are staying with me through this whole thing.  I’m currently using an old Mac that doesn’t allow me to do much more than the basics and isn’t portable.  This is why I’m not at the Tuesday night networking chat at Business and Learning – the conference room client requires a more up-to-date version of Mac’s operating system.  Same thing with Twitter – no Twitter clients work with Mac OS 10.3.

For those that know me well there’s probably a bunch of questions running through your head. What about Kaius? What about homeschooling? What about the WAH Expo? What about PodTalkDivas?  What about your VA work with coaches?

Kaius turned 5 in December. He’ll be going to Kindergarten starting in January – we’ve moved closer to my job just last week.  Kaius will be in daycare while I’m at work. This is THE single most hardest part of this whole situation and to each their own but it’s not what I had planned!  He is a social monster so he is excited and really looks forward to going every day.   I don’t like this, I’m not going to pretend to like it but it’s what I have to do to provide for him in the way I need to right now.

As some of you know, Tammy and I worked closely on the Expo with Business and Learning and on PodTalkDivas and if you come to the networking chats and/or listen to our show you know that Tammy has moved to Colorado.  Tammy and Shannon Smith are doing the WAH Expo this year and it was a really hard decision for me but I won’t be involved in the organizing of it – though I’m hoping to participate so maybe I’ll see you there in March!  PodTalkDivas will be on hiatus for a couple more weeks.   PodTalkDivas WILL be staying on my/our plate.

I will be taking down my freelanceva.com blog site as well as my personal site at coomily.com – hence you reading this on my new domain wendy-cooper.com where I will be trying hard to become a regular blogger.

I worked with Coaches Marketing Source (previously Virtual Helper 4 U) for a large part of my work-at-home career.  I’ve had to leave Kristen and the team – another one of the things I’m super upset about having to do.  The team we have in place there is a phenomenal group of individuals and I’m going to miss everyone, our fantastic clients included.

I’ve cried about this for weeks, I’ll probably cry about it for a few more.  Frankly I’ll probably be too tired to do much of anything including crying once I start work and we get into our routine so I don’t anticipate crying about it forever.  Going from 24-7 with the kid to 3 – 5 hours a day with him is gonna hurt my heart.. a lot, he’s fine with it but mom’s a bit of a wimp lol.

I need to do what’s best for him and I, right now this is it.

If you have any questions, comments, etc please feel free to either leave a comment below or email me at freelanceassistant@gmail.com – Thank you all SO much for all you’ve done over the years.  It wouldn’t have been the same without you and I had a blast!!!  I’m still here and getting ready to dive back into PodTalkDivas and this blog so feel free to send me an update of what you’ve been doing!  I’d love to hear from you!

PS: For those that host a website with me, need hosting or know someone that needs reliable hosting – I will still be offering hosting – more information on that is available at CoomilyHosting.com.

15 Responses so far

Wendily —

As much as I miss not chatting with you daily (or many times a day ) I’m so happy for you! You deserve it Chica! : )

Hugs to you and Kaius!
Tammy

I’m glad things are looking up. I know how hard of a decision that must have been for you…especially the putting Kaius in daycare part. I look forward to you getting settled in the routine so you can come around the online world a bit more. We miss you!

As my mom would say “Every setback is a setup for a comeback.”

There’s no shame at all in making changes to provide for your child. Kudos to you for knowing a change was necessary. Congrats on the new job and hopefully your transition with daycare will go more smoothly than you expected.

All the best to you, Wendy! Congratulations on finding a job where you’ll be able to use so many of your considerable talents!

Wendy, when a door shuts, a window opens. You’ve spent the most important years with Kaius and now he gets to go on a new adventure with school.

You know we all love you and are here for you.

Deb

Wendy I’ll be saying some prayers for you. Kudos to you for doing what you need to do to support you and Kaius. It sounds like you’ve been through a LOT and it’s apparent that you are a very strong person. A lot of people would ‘crumble’ under all the stress but you’ve done what you need to to move on and put one foot in front of the other. Way to go girl! I’ll be thinking of you!

What’s up gurrrrrrrrrrrrrrrlfriend. :)

Like most of your other friends have stated, “you made it through the hard times, and now you’re moving forward to brighter days..”

It’s a new year, with new days, but take it one-day-at-time.

Enough of the advice talk, you know I don’t know jack-shiat! lol

Beautiful site.. keep on hustling and smiling.

Peace

Thank you all for the awesome comments!!! I feel the love and it’s greatly appreciated!

Leesa, I love your mom’s quote!!!!!

I miss you all too!! :)

Wendy good to hear from you! You are a strong, smart woman and it sounds like you’re doing just what you need to be doing right now.

Are you back in the US now?

Take Care,
Angela

I’m with Leesa – and a little envious of this new company…

Kudo’s to you for the courage to keep on reinventing yourself. Randy and are both cheering for ya.

Awesome site!! You made me cry AGAIN! But then I read all the comments from everyone and just smiled seeing you read them and smiling too! You are one awesome strong woman and I am so lucky to have you as my seester! Love you!

Wendy, I hope you see how wonderful you are. You took stock and put your kid first. You took responsibility and found a job so you can increase cash flow.

In addition, you found a job that you like and that challenges you. You also took responsibility to grieve your perceived losses.

Finally, you posted this blog so those that care about you can know what is going on with you.

Please just stop, take a deep breath and see how phenomenal you are.

Each person is affected by the economy in a different way. There is absolutely no reason to be ashamed. Your ability to do your work is so high. You are a perfectionist. Nevertheless, the economy hit you. Are you ashamed that the US is going through a national economic hardship? Is that what you are ashamed about?

Hmmmm…….

I wish you could visually see how I feel about you right now. My heart swells with admiration and pride when I think about you.

Much love.

Iyabo
http://www.AuthenticChangeCoach.com

Wendy – I miss working with you but know that things change. And this sounds like good change for you since you’ve gone for it rather than just letting it happen to you. Raising two girls, I learned that the best gift you can give your little guy is to let him know that you’ll always take care of him. And to be a model of a woman who can take care of yourself. And you’re doing both. Horray for you! Hugs and hope to “run into you” soon.

Hey Wendy,

You are definitely missed in the online world and in my own world! At the same time, I know that you have honored yourself and your relationship with Kaius by owning the truth.

It’s not always easy to look at the truth and make a decision, but you have been very wise to do so. There will come a day when you see just how brave you are by letting go and stepping up! I only wish you could see that right now. I see you taking charge of your life. I see you honoring who you are and making sure that you have the life you want. I know this is “for now,” and that’s always better than for “the past” or “the future.” So enjoy presence and find the gratitude in what it brings.

Okay, enough mushy talk! Cya online!

-Kristen

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